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Ya Gotta Laugh

by Joe on February 12, 2008

Last night, we took our classes to church for the Lenten Sacrament of Reconciliation. For the most part, they behaved very well and it was a very nice service (it includes individual confessions which means the kids need to behave for a long stretch of time). My aide, Kris, and I were talking afterwards about how funny the kids can be. While some of the behavior can be a bit maddening, most of it makes me laugh on the inside. Here are just a few tidbits from last night.

  • Kris and I both received one Valentine’s gift each…a small package of Fannie May chocolate hearts. One young man (he’s a tall 8th grader…about 5′ 10″) came into class before we headed to church and handed Kris her gift which I thought was very sweet. Then he handed me my gift without missing a step as though it was the most natural thing on earth to do for a boy to give his teacher a Valentine gift. I was impressed that there was no razzing from the other students standing around. It was so completely innocent and sincere that I had to chuckle to myself.
  • Before heading to Church, one of the girls said, “we just went to confession in Advent.” I explained why Lent was so early this year and that, yes, it seems like we had just gone to confession. She responded, “Yeah, but I haven’t done anything wrong since then!”
  • In Church, the DRE used the time while kids were going to confession to sign up some of them for roles at the Confirmation Mass. One of the girls then called me over in a good-natured panic and said, “I just signed up to be a reader at Confirmation! I’m gonna make a fool of myself. I gonna mess up! I’m gonna fall down the stairs! I don’t know what to wear!”  The kids around her started to laugh as I tried to calm her down (laughing quietly to myself) and one of the priests actually came over and reminded us to quiet down! I assured her that the DRE was going to work with her and that she would be fine.
  • After confessing to the priest, each student was to go to the altar, say their prayer of penance, and then write down on a piece of paper what they would do during Lent as acts of penance. Then, they drop the paper in a bowl in the middle aisle as they return to their seats. One of the boys came back and told Kris, “I think I wrote the wrong thing on the paper. I wrote down my sins! Can I go back and change it?” She assured him that God knew what was in his heart and that no one would dig out his paper to read his list of sins.
  • After the prayer service, we distributed a study sheet in preparation for their Confirmation test (assessment) coming up in 2 weeks. Immediately, the big question was, “What if I fail?!!! Will I be held back?!!!” Kris and I calmed their fears and told them that if they don’t do well, we will personally work with them to make sure they know their faith in preparation for celebrating Confirmation. We had to remind them that we were not “weeding them out” but assessing their progress and responding as needed.
  • One of the young men (whose behavior has been less then stellar all year) asked me if I had gone up to one of the priests to confess my sins! I told him that I had not on this night but that I went during the Advent service and hope to go again before Lent is over. I got a kick out of being checked up on.
  • Apparently, this same boy commented to Kris last week (I was not present last week) about his less-than-favorable R.E. report card saying, “Thanks for getting me in trouble with that report card.” Without missing a beat, Kris said, “You wanna see who was responsible for that?” and took him around the corner of the room where there is a mirror on the wall and had him stand in front of it! She said, “I didn’t write your report card, Mr. Paprocki did, but here’s who’s really responsible.” He apparently reacted fine to that. Way to go, Kris!

Oh, these kids are something else, aren’t they! Gotta love em.

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Ashes

by Joe on February 6, 2008

I’m glad that we receive ashes only once a year and have the opportunity to receive the Eucharist everyday (and not the other way around!). Both actions express the same message: we are incapable of sustaining ourselves. On Ash Wednesday, we are reminded of what we are when no longer sustained by God…dust. The Eucharist, on the other hand, IS what sustains us…God’s grace - the presence of Jesus within us. The message of Ash Wednesday is not morbid…it is a joyful reminder that, with God’s life within us, we are so much more than dust and ashes!

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Catechesis for Those with Mental Illness

by Joe on January 17, 2008

I had the pleasure of sharing lunch with Connie Rakitan, the coordinator of a program called Faith and Fellowship - a ministry of faith formation for people who suffer from mental illness.

Statistics reveal that one in four American families are affected by mental illness. As catechists, we need to realize that 25% of those we teach are affected my mental illness, meaning that they or someone they know suffers from a mental illness such as schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, anxiety disorders, phobias, or major clinical depression, just to name a few.

Many people with mental illness can function and make great contributions to society. Unfortunately, people with mental illness are often socially isolated and even feel isolated from God. Connie’s Faith and Fellowship program seeks to help those with mental illness experience the love of God and of their sisters and brothers in faith. Faith and Fellowship strives to provide faith formation in a way suited to the needs of the mentally ill within the context of a small faith community as well as to offer opportunities for integration into the life and activities of the church or parish community. Connie provides training for her catechists to meet the unique needs of the faith community they are serving.

We as a Church are deeply appreciative to Connie and people who work with her in Faith and Fellowship for their dedication to our brothers and sisters who are often marginalized in our society. Their participation in the Corporal and Spiritual Works of Mercy (ministering to the sick and “imprisoned”; offering counsel and comfort) is an inspiration to all of us.

Faith and Fellowship can be contacted at 38 N. Austin Blvd., Oak Park, IL 60302 / 708-383-9276.

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Let the Weeds and the Wheat Grow Together

by Joe on January 8, 2008

I’m always suspicious of people who tell me that when they were in Vegas, they won X amount of money playing a certain game or machine. They never tell you how much they lost along the way!

In the same way, I’m about to tell you about a moment I had last night at religious education that was like hitting the jackpot. I’ll follow that, however, with a little disclaimer that shows it wasn’t all roses.

Anyway, last night I led a guided meditation on the Corporal Works of Mercy. In this meditation, Jesus enters the room and sits down next to the young person and they engage in conversation about what it means to follow Jesus. Jesus then slowly lays out the works of mercy that his disciples are called to do. In all, the meditation lasted about 15 minutes and I did it for 4 separate groups of 8th graders.

The “jackpot” moment was after one of the meditations, when I was explaining to the group that they had just meditated and that they key is to use their imaginations to engage in conversation with Jesus. A young man then said, “Yeah, it’s like he was sitting right next to me.”

WOW! Isn’t that what we catechists live for? I was thrilled to hear him say this, especially in front of his peers. I told the group that this is something they can practice at home: go to their room, get in a comfortable position, pay attention to their breathing until they slow it down, and then imagine Jesus entering the room to sit and talk with them.

Now, before you think that I had them eating out of my hand all night, here’s what else I dealt with:

  • a cell phone going off in the middle of one meditation
  • 3 young people who just couldn’t stop chatting with one another
  • one young person who felt compelled to just blurt out a comment every few minutes during the meditation despite my directions for quiet
  • a mysterious laser pointer whose source I was never able to determine
  • 2 young people with the giggles during a meditation
  • 1 young person who fell asleep during the meditation

Out of the 4 meditations, I would say 2 went extremely well, 1 was OK, and 1 was a struggle. The bottom line is that we have to let the weeds and the wheat grow together (Matthew 13:24-30).  We need patience and endurance to put up with the frustrating part of our ministry, knowing that God’s grace can, does, and will penetrate and make an impact on some who are ready.

Here’s the text of the meditation. Feel free to use it.

Meditation on the Corporal Works of Mercy

Today, we’re learning about what it is that Catholics believe and do. During the next 20 minutes, we’re going to focus on some very specific things that Catholics do. They’re called works of mercy because, when we perform these works, we share God’s merciful love with others.

Let’s take a moment to get comfortable now.

Make sure you’re in a position where you can be comfortable and still for the next 20 minutes.

Let’s quiet ourselves. Slowly and quietly breathe in to the count of 5. (1,2,3,4,5)

Hold your breath for 1 second.

Now slowly and quietly breathe out to the count of 5 (1,2,3,4,5)

Let’s do that again. (repeat)

Now, imagine that everyone else in this room just vanished and that you are all alone, enjoying the quiet.

Before long, Jesus walks in and sits next to you.

He asks how you are doing. Talk to him.

He explains that he is here today to ask you to be one of his followers.

You ask him, “Jesus, what do I have to do to be one of your followers?”

Jesus says, “the most important thing to do is to care for the needs of others. I want you to show mercy to others by tending to their needs whenever you can.”

You ask Jesus, “what do you mean? What kind of needs?”
Jesus says, “let me tell you about the needs that people have and how you can help them:
 

I want you to recognize when people are hungry and thirsty. Start in your own home. People don’t have to be starving to be hungry. Think about how you can help at meal time in your family. Help set the table. Help to prepare the food in the kitchen. Help to clean up afterwards. But also, keep in mind all the people in the world who don’t have food and water like you do. Pay attention to how you can help with food drives, support food pantries, work at a soup kitchen, or give money to people who feed the hungry.

I want you to shelter the homeless. You are very lucky to have a good roof over your head. Take care of your home. Help your neighbors to care for their homes. Pay attention to some of the ways that you can support people who work with the homeless. Homeless shelters need donations of soap, shampoo, and other personal items…maybe you can help by donating some of these.

I want you to clothe those who have no clothing. Again, you are very lucky to have warm clothes and shoes on your feet. Thank your parents for providing you with clothing and try not to get hung up on spending a lot of money on clothes. Go through your drawers and your closet and pack up some clothing that you can give to someone less fortunate.

I want you to visit the sick and imprisoned. I know that you’re not old enough to visit people in jail and hospitals even have age limits. But there are other ways you can be present to people. You can call or send a card to someone who is sick. If you have relatives that can’t get out of the house often because of their age or sickness, spend some time with them. People don’t have to be in jail to be imprisoned. Some people are imprisoned in their own homes because of sickness. Of course, if any of your friends are sick, be sure to visit them or call them…it will mean a lot to them.

I want you to be of help to others who are suffering the death of a loved one. I know it’s not fun to go to a wake or a funeral, but it means so much to the people who are grieving to just know that you care and that they are not alone. If you have grandparents or other relatives who are widows or widowers, spend some time with them. They can be very lonely missing their loved ones who have died. You probably even have friends who have lost a loved one. Be sure to show that you care and that you are there for them.

Finally, I want you to do what you can to help the poor. I know you probably don’t have a lot of money of your own but you’d be surprised to know just how many people in the world have far less than you have. Do what you can to share with those in need. Save your change in a jar at home and every once in a while, donate it to those who work with the poor. Instead of buying something for yourself, every once in a while, buy something for the poor or give the money to help those who are poor.

Jesus pauses and then says, I’m not asking you to change the world. But if you and all of my followers do what you can, the world will change. I want you to do works of mercy: feed the hungry, shelter the homeless, clothe the naked, visit the sick and imprisoned, bury the dead, and give to the poor. Will you consider being my follower?

Tell Jesus that you are preparing for Confirmation…preparing to follow him in a new way as a young adult. Tell him that you want to follow him but that you need his help. Talk to Jesus about what’s keeping you from truly being one of his followers.
Jesus knows that it’s time for you to move on now. He asks if there’s anything else you want to say to him or ask him. Take time to do that now.
Thank Jesus for this time together.

Watch as he walks out of the chapel and down the stairs.

Spend a quiet moment now with the Holy Spirit.
 

Then the king will say to those on his right, ‘Come, you who are blessed by my Father. Inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world. For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, a stranger and you welcomed me, naked and you clothed me, ill and you cared for me, in prison and you visited me.’ Then the righteous 16 will answer him and say, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you drink? When did we see you a stranger and welcome you, or naked and clothe you? When did we see you ill or in prison, and visit you?’ And the king will say to them in reply, ‘Amen, I say to you, whatever you did for one of these least brothers of mine, you did for me.’
 

 

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Top Ten Posts of 2007

by Joe on January 3, 2008

The New Year often brings with it a bevy of Top Ten lists that look back over the previous year (e.g. ten best/worst movies, etc.).

With that in mind, I thought I would put together a list of the Top Ten posts from my blog in 2007, based on the number of comments they received. Enjoy!

10. Feed the Catechists!

9. The Law of Love - It’s No Secret

8. First Guided Reflection

7. How Closely Do You Follow Your Textbook?

6. Seating Arrangement

5. Lively Conversation on Intergenerational Catechesis

4. A Modest Proposal

3. Reflecting on the Year

2. A Catechist’s S.O.S.

1. Top Reasons to Become a Catechist

So what does this tell me? It tells me that catechists have a wide range of interests! These topics cover a very wide range of issues, from how to arrange our rooms to paradigms for catechesis! Catechists are certainly very ecclectic!

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Receiving is Nice Too!

by Joe on December 19, 2007

I know that it is better to give than to receive, but receiving is nice too!

I was touched to receive Christmas gifts from several of my students (I’m sure it was their parents who put them up to it!). What a nice gesture to express appreciation for the partnership we catechists enter into with parents.

I was also delighted to receive a beautiful leather bound New American Bible from my DRE, Arlene. It will assume it’s rightful position at my bedside.

Oh, yeah, back to the kids. As one of the girls was leaving class Monday night, she said, “Merry Christmas! I’ll bring your gift next time…I left it at home!” These kids are something else, aren’t they?

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Emmanuel - The Great Catechist

by Joe on December 6, 2007

During Advent, we sing the traditional hymn, O Come, O Come, Emmanuel, a beautiful song based on the “O” Antiphons from the Liturgy of the Hours (Vespers) for the octave (eight days) before Christmas (beginning December 17).

One verse of that song is of particular interest to catechists because it speaks of our longing for being taught to live according to God’s way:

O come, Thou Wisdom from on high,
Who orderest all things mightily;
To us the path of knowledge show,
And teach us in her ways to go.

This verse expresses our inner desire to be taught properly so that we may find the right path. Deep within, we all desire rich and profound catechesis - teaching that leads us to know God. When we pray for the coming of Emmanuel, we are praying for the coming of ”the Great Catechist” - the One who teaches us the path to God.

(special thanks to my friend Michael Cameron for pointing out the catechetical dimension of this song many years ago…he probably doesn’t even remember doing so, but it has stuck with me all of these years!) 

P.S. Nice meditative version on YouTube (albeit without my favorite verse!)…check it out.

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The Other 6 Days of the Week

by Joe on November 21, 2007

In our book, Living the Mass: How One Hour a Week Can Change Your Life, Fr. Dom Grassi and I include a feature in every chapter called The Other Six Days of the Week in which we strive to show the connection between what we do at Mass and how we live the Mass the other six days of the week.

Now, there is a website titled www.other6.com that encourages people to “find God” not only on Sundays at Mass, but on the other six days of the week as well. Take a look at it…I think you’ll enjoy it.

Interestingly enough, a few weeks ago, Sen. Rick Santorum (a Catholic) said this of Islam and Christianity:

 “Islam, unlike Christianity, is an all-encompassing ideology. It is not just something you do on Sunday…. We (as Americans) don’t get that.”

The part he really doesn’t get is that Christianity is all-encompassing…not just something we do on Sunday!!! St. Ignatius of Loyola summed up the all-encompassing nature of Christianity in his prayer, the Suscipe:

Take, Lord, and receive all my liberty,
my memory, my understanding
and my entire will,
All I have and call my own.
 
You have given all to me.
To you, Lord, I return it.
 
Everything is yours; do with it what you will.
Give me only your love and your grace.
That is enough for me.

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What Color was Jesus?

by Joe on November 13, 2007

Last night, as part of our meditation, I showed the young people a number of different images of Jesus from around the world and over many centuries. Included in the images were depictions of Jesus as an Oriental, as Native American, as Black, and other dark-skinned peoples.

When we were finished, one young man came up to me and asked, “Not to be racist or anything, but how come some of those pictures showed Jesus as Black? I don’t get it. What color was Jesus?”

I explained to him that people have always imaged Jesus according to their own culture. In fact, most images of Jesus that we Americans are accustomed to depict Jesus as Anglo, which of course, he was not. Jesus was a Jew. Some Jews are light-skinned and others are darker-skinned. The important thing for us to remember is that, while the historical Jesus was a Jew, the Risen Christ transcends race and nationality. This is why people of all cultures can depict Jesus as “one of their own.”

This further reinforces the notion that all people are created in the image and likeness of God and it is evidence of the inculturation of the Gospel…the Gospel taking root within specific cultures and speaking to that culture from within.

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Live Deep, Not Fast

by Joe on October 28, 2007

A colleague of mine attended a workshop on adolescent ministry given by Dr. Robert McCarty, executive director of the National Federation for Catholic Youth Ministry. She shared her notes with me and I was struck by one thing that Dr. McCarty emphasized over and over again: he said that we must teach our young people to live deep, not fast.

I absolutly love that notion and I plan to share it with my young people when we prepare for our next meditation on Monday evening. Our society teaches us to live fast. The Catholic Tradition teaches us to live deep. We do this in a variety of ways, not the least of which is through our life of prayer.

As we approach this week, let’s help our young people to put down roots and to slow down and to savor the gift of God’s grace: to live deep!

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