A few years ago, I posted about an approach I’ve been taking for parent sacramental prep meetings, particularly First Eucharist. Basically, I’ve been asking the catechetical leader to recruit four or five parents from the previous year’s First Eucharist class to form a panel that I can interview about their experience of bringing their children to the sacraments. I have had nothing but great success with this format as these parents eagerly give witness to their own faith and the noble task of forming their children in the Catholic faith.
Recently, I facilitated this format once again, at St. Cajetan Parish on the Southside of Chicago, and two things occurred that are worth reporting.
- After I spoke to the parents about a variety of ways they can support their children in embracing their faith, and after they listened to the panel, a handful of parents came up front to chat with me and to peruse my books, which I encouraged them to read to nurture their own faith. A young couple greeted me and the dad said, “We’re those parents who show up on Christmas and Easter, but that’s gotta change. We heard a lot tonight about what parents need to do to help their kids grow in faith, and we’re going to take more responsibility. We’re spending all this money on tuition and not doing our part as parents to teach our kids about the Catholic faith. Thanks for all your help!”
- The next day, the catechetical leader, Deb Breakey, sent me the following e-mail, which one of the parents on the panel had received and shared: “Thanks for speaking tonight. A lot of what you said resonated with me. You are a great person. You might not realize it, but you make me want to be a better person. Thank you for coming tonight. You brought a tear to my eye.” Deb added that the parent on the panel who received this affirming e-mail confessed that she herself felt she had been “a little off-track” recently with her own parenting. She realized that, “Being on this panel was put on my plate for more than one reason, and I need to refocus on the virtues.”
So, not only do the parents in the “audience” receive the inspiration that they need to bring their children to First Eucharist, but the people invited to share on the parent panel are challenged themselves to focus on their ongoing responsibilities as parents forming their children in faith. This is just another reminder that children’s faith formation is not only about the children but is, in reality, about the adults who are bringing them to this moment.